I’m not your girlfriend

What creeps me out about places like Flickr is when people you don’t know, have never met, have never e-mailed with, ‘friend’ you. I wish there was a way you could ‘unfriend’ strangers. Or simply not allow it unless you give permission.

Dude, I’s SO not your friend.



I fully agree…

dont join myspace… its really bad there.
allen (link) – 30 March 2005 – 22:57

I think you can ‘unfriend’ someone on Flickr. Go to your list of contacts in your profile, and put your mouse over the contact you don’t like. You should get a message bubble that says you can change that person’s status….

but don’t use that on “modsue”…!!
ModSue – 30 March 2005 – 23:35

They need a “i want to watch this person’s photos” option..
ichris (link) – 30 March 2005 – 23:47

Modsue, only if you yuourself befriended them first and then want to undo it.
Caroline (link) – 31 March 2005 – 00:10

From the Flickr FAQ:
How do I remove a contact?
A: From your home page, go to ‘Your contacts’. This takes you to another page, where you should see your contacts listed. Select the contact you’d like to remove. Select ‘Profile’ on the right side of the page. Click the ‘Change’ link. At the bottom of the text click ‘Remove’.

Try that!
ModSue – 31 March 2005 – 00:42

Yep, you’r absolutely right. Dad damn Flickr creeps me out to. Sometimes it’s quite obsoluete
Seniorenman – 31 March 2005 – 07:55

Sue, I can’t remove other people’s contacts. You can only remove your own.
Caroline (link) – 31 March 2005 – 10:03

I guess I didn’t understand—you mean she put you on her list, and you want to be off of her list?

I need more sleep and more English lessons!

I know how annoyed you get when people are thick, so I am sorry for being so stupid…
ModSue – 31 March 2005 – 15:24

LOL. I am high maintenance, amn’t I?
Caroline (link) – 31 March 2005 – 15:26

To clarify: yes, they put me on their contacts list. (‘contacts’ is questionable too… am I their ‘contact’ if I don’t know them?) And then they make me their ‘friend’. How can you call someone you don’t know a friend?

People look at other people’s contacts and they might think ‘oh look, Caroline is their friend.’ When I’m not and don’t want to be.

Perhaps I am a little precious about the word ‘friend’
Caroline (link) – 31 March 2005 – 15:30

Ahh right.

I WAS going to say that there were three ‘levels’ (contact, friend or family.. well two levels but.. hmm)

I presume “contact” to mean I like this persons photos, or I have some form of contact with them (like “I read their blog”).

Maybe an “acquaintance” level is required??

Or change “Contacts” to “Favourites” or something???
Gordon (link) – 31 March 2005 – 17:55

Favourites would be a lot better, and only allow ‘friending’ when both parties agree.
Caroline (link) – 31 March 2005 – 20:40

This is why I hate almost all forms of social software.

I too value the term ‘friend’. I do not equate someone who will talk to me ‘til three in the morning about all sorts of, er, stuff with somebody I’ve never met in a one horse town in Texas who happens to like a photo I posted.

I think “Extremely Distant Acquaintance, Probably Crazed Stalker” would be a better term than “friend”.
Vaughan (link) – 01 April 2005 – 00:42

There is no option to put you only into the list ‘favourite fotographers’ There is only the option friend or family…so I wouldn’t put you into family either…Its simply to see your pictures right away.. not to say you are my friend but you could suggest a change of terms to flickr administration…or make the pictures only avaible to friends,which means you choose the people who can see it but thats pretty anti internet(everyone can see it) Its the same ‘problem’ on livejournal…
Sandra (link) – 01 April 2005 – 01:00

You don’t have to put people in ‘friends’ or ‘family’. You can just make them a ‘contact’, which still makes no sense to me, since they haven’t really had any contact with me, but is the better option.
Caroline (link) – 01 April 2005 – 08:33

I am at flickr and when I put you into contakts I have to choose wether you are a friend or family unless I didn’t understand anything.It is relly just to see easier you pictures: and a compliment for you to tell you I like your Pictures…
And I simply knew your blog and choose that liek that,all other ‘contakts’ are people that I knew online from a site like flickr called fotolog and we do evne orginize meetings so they qualifie more to the word friend evne if they are more good aquintances. And sometimes I jsut put random people that commented to mine or ‘friendet’ me.
Sandra (link) – 01 April 2005 – 19:21

I rest my case.
Caroline (link) – 01 April 2005 – 19:53

Ok I chequed…You are right…
I’ve taken you out of friends and made you a simple contakt which in reality just means you are a favourite.
It was a missunderstanding,I thought I ahd to click on either friends or family.
Thanks for pointing my error out.
hope you don’t mind I keep you as a favourite thought…
Sandra (link) – 01 April 2005 – 21:59